“This book is about desire.
The kind that drives you crazy.”
"Women were the doorway, not the destination."
This is the story of what it took to learn the difference — the heartbreak, the hunger, the fumbling, the breakthroughs. All of it. Everything in this book happened.
I didn't become whole by conquering desire. I became whole by learning how to feel — without fleeing, performing, or numbing.
"This memoir is honest in a way that costs something. You can feel it on every page. I felt seen in a way no self-help book has ever managed."
"It was comforting to read a man’s perspective and be reminded that men can learn, become more conscious, and change the dynamics of intimacy toward a healthier future."
"Oh my God Balwin! I couldn’t stop reading this. It’s exactly what is really happening. Everyone needs to read it! But I didn’t like the tantra part, did you have to write that part?”